We’re here to be vulnerable and in doing so create an idea and culture that allows for people to be vulnerable back. We’re here to offer support for people walking through things they don’t understand, to allow people to know that they’re not alone in the things that aren’t openly talked about. We’re here to show that loving through trials takes courage for both parties but is worth the fight.
We are James and Autumn and we’re so glad you’re here! Just to give you a little background about us…we both hail from sunny California (him-Sacramento, her-Los Angeles) but now reside in the beautiful Rocky Mountains, where we met and fell in love, with our golden pup Molly and sweet baby girl Avonlea. We recently celebrated three years of marriage but have been together for a total of eight hard, yet rewarding years. A lot of those years consisted of us fighting to stay together through James’ battle with sex addiction, which is how Courageous Love started.
Please feel free to read through our individual stories to get to know each of us a little better, and our story to see how we met, our journey through dating, engagement, and then marriage!
You may be wondering how we came up with the name Courageous Love? It was birthed from one of our groomsmen’s speech at our wedding reception. This particular friend and his wife walked through our entire dating relationship with us; the break ups, James choosing pornography and other women over Autumn, and Autumn feeling like she was in a whirlwind most days. He spoke over our relationship and marriage the word ‘courage’. He said there was so much courage displayed between the two of us that others could learn a lot about dedicated love and courage in love through our story. He also pointed out that society is so quick and willing to lay down courage for silence, for pride, and for standing back instead of standing up. So, from his speech we found it fitting to share our story under the premise of that word spoken over us.
Our hearts behind starting this blog was and is to shed light on sexual addiction and to encourage couples who are fighting to save their relationship or marriage that there is hope! Sex addiction is a taboo topic for society and churches to talk about, yet so many men and women struggle with it on a daily basis. We made the decision to be vulnerable and share our story because we were tired of this topic being so quickly brushed under the rug.
A few other things you will find throughout our site are blog posts written by both of us, pictures, recipes, book recommendations and other daily life topics including the journey of parenthood. One thing we talked about while we were casting vision for our site was that even though we’re in the process of healing, life goes on and we want to write about more than just the addiction. Yes, we have our bad days but there are also really great days that bring great adventures, picture worthy moments, and stories.
We’re just a young married couple who desire to be real…no more masks, no more trying to pretend that life is perfect. This is just the beginning of our story and we are so excited that you are joining us on our adventure! Please feel free to leave comments, contact us, ask questions, follow us on social media, or share our blog with your friends.